Are you a polite, hardworking, accommodating worker? Well, I’ve just learned that being a “good girl” can be a bad thing when it comes to your career and personal finances.

At a recent Breakfast Meeting of the National Association of Female Executives (NAFE) I heard a talk by Dr. Lois Frankel, the author of “Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office: 101 Unconscious Mistakes Women Make That Sabotage Their Careers…”, which brought up some good points.

One of the things Frankel said was that women should understand and play by the rules. She asserted that hard work doesn’t get you ahead – it enables you to keep your job. Women have to start thinking strategically and start promoting themselves as team players.

Another point made was that women have to learn to “manage up.” People complain that the reason someone is getting ahead is that the boss likes them, and it’s true. You don’t have to flatter your boss or agree with everything they say, but you do want to let them know that you’re committed to his/her success. Then your boss will be committed to yours.